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The Week ending July 19, 2008 — Discussion for Code News Subscribers

An excerpt from The Code Newsletter *Featured Article*

“Let Life Have You…”

There’s a teaching idea rolling around in the world these days that says, “I am the creator of my reality — I am in control of what happens in my life and what doesn’t.”

This idea - when mis-understood - creates suffering of untold proportions.

How does it make you feel when you’re hurting financially, physically or emotionally and you — the creator of your reality — cannot change it?

What if you feel like you should be able to change your circumstances but as hard as you try, you can’t.

Do you think, “Well, I guess this just doesn’t work for me.” Or, “The Universe must not want this for me…”

Where does it leave you when you can’t change something you think you should be able to change? It leaves you helpless, hopeless, stranded, wondering what’s wrong with you, wondering if you’re not smart enough or not good enough or not developed enough spiritually, to get it right. And it’s embarrasing.

You may remember times when you DID change something going on in your life. And it was effortless… and this time you can’t. And it hurts.

So right now, let’s break this down.

What are the basics of this idea that sounds so right but in reality doesn’t work to your benefit at all.

The difference between…

“taking responsibility for my experience”

and

“being the creator of my reality and therefore in charge of what happens”

is our starting point.

It is your right, indeed your responsibility to determine how you experience life.

And yet… to assume that responsibility includes determining what is going to happen, or how things will happen or even IF things will happen (or not), is where pain kicks in.

If we stop to observe how everything happens, we may begin to notice there really are no decisions.

Of course it’s common to think we make decisions. All the time. What’s really going on, is things happen and we take credit for it. So….

When the belief “I” do things or “I” determine what’s going to happen has never been questioned, the predictable next step when something does go wrong (as we see it) is that we suffer.

“I did this… so I can undo it.”

Turned around 180 degrees… “I didn’t do this, so I cannot undo it.”

Much truer than the original statement in my experience.

Going Deeper: it isn’t my job - and never has been my job (thankgoodness!) - to determine what’s going to happen or not happen. My job - the one that is my right to do - is to choose consciously how I experience this moment, as it is.

Am I the creator of my reality? Any “reality” that isn’t reality as it is, isn’t reality at all. So, no. I do not determine what happens… I don’t have to carry that burden.

I can be in charge of choosing how I experience reality… as it is. What freedom! Now I am free to respond to what’s going on. True freedom is to drop the illusion of control and what do you know what? The moment that’s genuine, things begin happen that are… WAIT FOR IT… out of your control. It’s brilliant!

When you’re sure it must be your way or no way at all… it might be worth considering that someone (LIFE for example) might have bigger dreams for you than you do for yourself. The only way you’ll ever get to find out is to let LIFE have you.

In service to Life, which is of course you!